Join us October 28! TTBF is excited to host a free concert featuring live music with Jon Wayne (of Jon Wayne and the Pain) and his band and opening act The Push at the Augsburg University StepUP® Gala After Party!
How do the TTBF benefit concerts support people in the vulnerable transition from treatment to recover? Jeff shared his story and how our work at TTBF helped him in his efforts with life long sobriety.
The To The Bridge Foundation Knows Early Recovery is FragileFor me, recovery from chemical dependency, first and foremost, began by being taught about my insecurities. Insecurities due to my upbringing.
Over time, insecurity made me selfish, manipulative, and eventually depressed. A leading psychologist described depression as the “perceived inability to construct a happy future.” That resonated with me.
So, true recovery for me meant addressing insecurities and false shame, not at all just removing my substance of choice.Tanya, a counselor at my final (my 5th) inpatient treatment facility, said something to me one day in July 2016 that changed everything. It does not matter what she said, it is only important that I had an open mind, and what she said gave me hope that I could have a happy future. After 10 years of trying to get sober, my obsession and compulsion with my drug of choice were lifted in less than 2 hours. It was a cathartic feeling – my recovery moved from my mind to my heart, too.In my experience, hope is the key. It helped me add spirituality and faith to my life. I become whole again – mind, body, and spirit. Today, I have intrinsic confidence, rather than an escapist mentality (alcohol), and rather than seeking validation through work or women.I left my 5th inpatient facility August 29, 2016, after 90 days, and went to Kinnic Falls, a halfway facility. I spent 90 days there, and then 9 months at Gerber House, its sober living house. The progression from inpatient facility, to a halfway facility, to a sober house, involved a slow transition back to independent living. The progression led to me being legitimately ready for gainful reemployment.As people in early recovery find hope, believe in a new way of life, and are ready and able to work full time, financial barriers often emerge, feel overwhelming, and can defeat hope. This is why the To The Bridge foundation is so important.In January 2017, I began working at a temporary “sober job,” making $13 an hour. I did not have driving privileges. Through direct conversation, the CEO and owner of the company where I began work discerned quickly I did not have driving privileges, and that I was a licensed attorney. I was honest with him.He told me he was looking for a commercial attorney, and asked for my resume. Today, I am general counsel of that company, with 160 employees, and report directly to the CEO and owner, providing sophisticated legal and business strategy counsel.My point is simple: have hope, and do not be afraid to humble yourself.Without the To The Bridge Foundation grant that paid to reinstate my driving privileges, the patience, commitment, and momentum of my recovery could have been defeated. I would not have had the chance to capture the unexplainable opportunities that presented to me. Early recovery is fragile, but the To The Bridge Foundation bolsters hope for those who “show up” and participate in their future.I believe the To The Bridge Foundation’s mission is driven by this paradigm: “But for the grace of God, there Go I.” When gratitude (for the gifts in our life) and humility (sometimes bad things happen to good people) intersect, selfless action results.
Thanks again, Jeff
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